I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving
home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t
anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas
and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise,
especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything.
Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time,
sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay
anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user
flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they
are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and
independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different
things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly.
Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your
plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation
carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money
to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include
‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond
(usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and
contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and
arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with
flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too –
getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t
like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather
than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking).
Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their
best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for
help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left
home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to
cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care
system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden
transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and
government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation
and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents,
call one of the associations below for information, advice and
assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because
of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses,
such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents
insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
@marcoacesabo, Roo, you have good friends! Sorry this took a bit but enjoy the fluff!
“You really don’t have to do this, yoi,” Marco says with no expectation of being listened to.
“Stop messing with it,” Sabo hisses at Ace, ignoring Marco entirely and tugging at Ace’s shirt cuffs. “You’re gonna stretch it out! Stop–!”
“It’s fine, Sabo; just leave it,” Ace says, trying to free his wrist from Sabo’s grip. Sabo’s looking a bit frayed and isn’t letting go, so Ace uses a hold-break, takes a step and a half turn, and tugs Sabo’s hands just hard enough to drag Sabo forward and off balance. “Stop freaking out!”
Sabo starts to sputter something that’s probably a denial but crashes into Ace before he can finish. Sabo usually would catch himself so Ace wasn’t braced for it and he stumbles and then they’re both on the ground, rolling and hissing.
Marco doesn’t bother looking back at them. He nods to Haruta in the doorway. “Hi,” he says. “Merry Christmas.”
“Merry Christmas,” Haruta echoes, then looks around him. “Are they okay?”
“Yeah,” Marco says, stepping forward towards the warmth of the house. “Just leave them, yoi. They’ll be fine.”
“Hey!” Ace yells behind him, but Marco lets the door close.
“Here.” He hands a bag full of small boxes over and Haruta takes it on autopilot, still squinting towards the door. “They’re just nervous about meeting the family.”
“Mmm. So they…take it out on each other?”
“Violence is how their family shows affection,” Marco says. The door slams open behind him and the two of them tumble in, dripping snow and bad words everywhere.
“Marco!” Ace whines. “You didn’t hafta–”
“Hi,” Sabo says, darting forward with hand outstretched. “Hi, I’m Sabo. Nice to meet you.” Ace steps up and Sabo plants his other hand across Ace’s face and pushes him back away. “I’m the normal one,” he says, bracing himself against Marco’s side and still holding his hand out to shake. “Don’t mind us. It’s fine.”
Marco plants his feet and wishes he still had the bag of presents so he had an excuse to stay out of it. “You guys said you’d behave, yoi.”
“No, we didn’t,” Sabo says, turning on him, eyes slightly wild. “You said we’d behave. I said we’d try.”
“I always behave,” Ace says, but he’s currently faceplanted on the ground with Sabo’s wet boot on his back so it’s not very convincing.
“We,” Sabo tells him, leaning forward hard enough that Ace wheezes, “are making a good impression. We are being nice and normal and sane. We are being calm and reasonable, Ace. We are being polite.”
“They are?” Haruta asks Marco, who, sadly, has to nod.
“Good,” Haruta says, Shaking Sabo’s still outstretched hand. “Nice to meet you guys. I think you’ll fit right in.”
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